So you’ve got a rock on your finger, a date set, your venue sorted and now it’s time to get yourself kitted out for the big day.
Now I wanted to be completely honest in this blog post. Having worked in a bridal boutique for over 4 years I have seen, heard and dealt with it all, mostly good things but a few bad as well. I wanted to put some rumours to bed and tell you what to expect and how to prepare yourself for what should be one of the most exciting shopping trips of your life!
Expectation | I’m going to have that WOW moment when I find the one.
Reality | Let’s be honest girls we’ve all watched say yes to the dress a thousand times (on repeat). As much as I love this show I honestly think it gives such a crazy impression of what dress hunting is like. Not every bride will have that WOW moment where everyone in their entourage breaks down into hysterical tears when they find the dress.
The reality is that you will like more than one dress & you may have to mull it over making pros and cons about each one until you are 100% certain it’s the one. Trying them on again and again and again is part of the process.
Be prepared for this and don’t put too much pressure on yourself to have a HUGE connection or emotional response to one dress. I have so many brides who have fallen in love with 2 or 3 dresses and they still say ‘I haven’t had that WOW moment’ chances are you never will but you have some incredible options to choose from.
We all have different aspects to our personality which means you may be torn between two completely different styles. Pretty and girly or sexy and elegant? This is going to sound so cliche but if you figure out which type of bride you want to be before you go dress shopping it will help so much.
Enjoy the experience, it’s the only time you get to try wedding dresses so make the most of it and don’t feel disheartened if you never get that WOW feeling. Some things are best left to the movies.
Expectation | My friends and family will be 100% supportive of my decision
Reality | As much as this breaks my heart to say not everyone in your entourage will like the same things you like. Now, some will be supportive because they love you and want you to have what YOU want but the majority of the time your friends and family will be quite critical. Again, prepare yourself for some out spoken and honest comments.
On most occasions your bridal consultant will be the first one to see your reaction in a dress before you come out of the fitting room to show your friends/family. You might fall head over heels for the dress as soon as you put it on. You feel excited and can’t wait to show the rest of the team, you pull back the curtain…. Then silence. You can tell they don’t love it as much as you do. Here you have to make a decision, stick to your guns and don’t let anyone phase your decision or you can let their opinions over take yours.
It is a really difficult situation to be part of, you love the dress but mum hates it. It is a good idea to think about what is important to you before you dress hunt. If you are not interested in hearing bad comments about dresses you like make sure you tell your entourage. Equally, if it is extremely important to you that your family love the dress as much as you then be prepared that it may take a little longer to find something. After all it’s hard enough to please ourselves, let alone Mum, Aunty Pat, Grandad Johnny and Pebbles the cat!
Expectation | Bridal shops are pushy for sales
Reality | Bridal shops often get a bad rep on TV and in films. Consultants often come across as judgemental and pushy but I promise you we are actually a really nice bunch!
The most important thing to remember is that we are here to help, we know our dresses well and have some helpful advice. Every bride is different and we are very good at adapting to different situations but you have to trust us and communicate your vision.
We are very patient, so please don’t worry. We won’t judge you for spending hours thinking about which shade of white works best or if you should have cap sleeves or not. No question is too silly so just ask. It’s the one day you’re allowed to be a bit fussy (Just try not to turn full bridezilla on us!)
We are also very aware that this will be one of the biggest purchases you will ever make so we know every detail needs to be perfect. We will do everything we can to make sure you are 100% happy.
Expectation | I will stick to my budget no matter what
Reality | If you are set on a 2k budget simply do not try on anything that is over this and you will be fine. However, chances are you will see some beautiful dresses that will be over your price point and you will want to try them on. Once you have seen it hanging on the rail you will not be able to leave the shop without trying it on. Curiosity always gets the better of us.
This is where it often gets a little tricky, you will most likely fall in love with it. Your 2k budget has suddenly doubled to 4k and now you have a big dilemma on your hands. Chances are you will then try to find something similar but within your price range, this generally is very difficult. There is a reason why the dress is 4k, whether it’s fabric, beading or the designer you will not be able to find something the same for half the price. I wouldn’t waste your time.
If you really cannot find anything you like as much you will need to try and find the extra money somehow. You may have to cut back on other elements of the wedding so be prepared for this to happen. One option that a lot of my brides use in this situation is to buy the dress and opt to sell it on second hand after the wedding. You will recoup some money this way and you will have no regrets about not choosing the right dress. After all you only get married once!